This one is for Mom

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This one is for you Mom…

Mummy, I can’t even count the number of times I call you. Your name may be Mrs. Savita Manoj Brijpuria to the world but to me you are my mother. The one who brought me to this world and the one who taught me to deal with this world.

You are the best teacher to me and I have learnt so much from you.

You taught me to be good to the ones who are good to you and be ten times as good to the world who are bad to you as it ensures that they are left with no option but to agree with you.

You taught me to walk the world learning their customs but to never forget my personal values.

I loved the way you fought for me. I appreciate how you attended my school functions to make me smile whether I participated or not. I adored you for loving me even when I failed. I appreciate your belief that I would learn the information I needed to know when the time was right, through school, college or life, and if I never learnt then probably there was no need for me to learn and I could survive without knowing it.

Mom you actually made me achieve so much, with your strength and belief.

I hated Math and still do but your challenge to my Math teacher helped me to actually become a Math Honours so that with pride you could flaunt about it.

I probably am the most fickle minded child of yours but to every rejection or new decision you had a logical reason to give to papa, as he fumed.

I have live my life the way I want because you believed I could so I believed that I could.

You may have not been like other moms. You may have cried when I fell down but you also taught me to be thankful that I could stand back up.

You never wore make up but you never stopped me from trying it on me. You believe in being yourself and that is what I love about you. You have always been the strength of our family and would always be.

I love you for being who you are. You are different and I love you for that. You hated to cook still I never remember a day or a meal you skipped because you did not feel like cooking. The way you supported Papa through all the highs and lows makes me respect you more as a person. From taking charge of his work to us at home, every responsibility that you handle is so perfect with all your lovely imperfections. You learnt driving after your heart attack and everyone looked at your courage with amazement.

I still remember when I was asked who is my role model I could only say ‘My Mother’ not just because you are my mum but because you are a strongest person I know. I want to be like you. I want to have the strength you have.

Mom may you live your dream…I would love to see you doing all you want to in life.

Thank you mom for teaching us to be individuals. Thank you for your little gestures that make me feel so special, so connected to you. I sometimes doubt if I could be such a complete mother to my own kids.

Love you always

 

Mistakes

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‘I’ve made mistakes,

I’ve taken wrong turns

Scolding I’ve heard

Punishments I’ve received

But I cannot regret

For new paths were forged,

New friends were made,

New lessons were learnt that I will never forget

So, I say with pride

Hum un thode besharam logon mein se hai

jo galtiyaan kar kar ke seekh te hain.’

 

I’ve made my fair share of mistakes, most unintentionally, but some intentionally.

Intentionally! I can hear the shock.

The questions – Are you mad? Why would you make mistakes intentionally?

I am a firm believer of the philosophy, ‘You learn from your mistakes’. If you don’t make mistakes, you do not learn or grow. Here are a few mistakes that have changed my life, forced me to grow or simply changed the way I think.

I remember being in the 6th standard, just a young girl with her first crush. My neighborhood friends kept encouraging me to tell ‘Wo ladka’ that I liked him, but I didn’t. Then, his father was transferred and he moved away, without me knowing his name. Aaj, facebook par bhi dhoondne se nahi milega. This was a mistake I made as an eleven year old, but it taught me a valuable lesson ‘if you like someone, let them know or at least naam to pooch lo’. Dil ka bojh kam hua aisa lagta hai 😉 Now, if I find someone cute, I speak to them and at least learn their names.

Lesson: Sometimes in life, mistakes are not the steps taken, rather they are the steps not taken. Do something and regret it for a little while rather than not do something and regret it for a lifetime.

 

Being afraid – ‘Pakade gaye to kya hoga?’ often rules the way we live our life.

We focus on the consequences of making mistakes, not realizing that making mistakes can be fun.

Not me!

The first time, I deliberately made a mistake was while I was still in school. It was exam time and during the Geography paper, I watched my classmates whisper and help each other. It looked like fun and I felt left out. I was young and I didn’t understand the reason behind the cheating, ‘Not knowing the answer, not wanting to fail’. All I saw was a fun game that I wasn’t a part of. During the next exam, I was determined to play. I said to a friend, ‘Hey listen, I have written this answer to question no xyz, I will read it out to you, please tell me if the answer is correct.’ She agreed, we got caught and received – 5 for that mistake.

Lesson: Learn the basics of cheating if you are going to cheat or suffer the consequences.

As I grew older and headed off to college, I didn’t stop making mistakes. In fact, I would say that the mistakes I made were larger and had a much greater impact on my life.

A prime example, I never intended to study mathematics in college, but I scored the highest marks in mathematics for my 10th standard board exam. So, of course, I had to study mathematics in college.

My great math score forced me to study subjects that scared me. I wasn’t sure I would succeed. I was afraid to disappoint everyone. This unpredicted change forced me to face my biggest fears and made me stronger. Today, I am a Mathematics Honors graduate.

Lesson: Sometimes the mistakes that you make take you places that you would have never dreamt in your life. So enjoy them!

As children, as teenagers, we often assume that once we grow up, we will no longer make mistakes. I am now an adult, but I still make mistakes. Every new situation brings new mistakes. The only difference is that over the years, life has taught me the art of making mistakes and fixing mistakes. This makes fixing the damage much easier. 🙂

The truth is as long as you are alive, you will keep making mistakes. Do not fear making mistakes. View them as a rite of passage that helps one grow, learn and evolve. They are life’s lessons. They are the joys and regrets of truly living life. So, when you make a mistake you regret, tell yourself – ‘Khade ho jao, gir gir kar hi bade hote hai.’

I do 😉